Become Confident: Silence The Self-Doubt

by blogadmin 25. October 2017 03:18

Confidence is a key part of success in business. It is about having trust in what you know and your abilities to handle unexpected events that happen in all facets of your life. It is that unexplainable and untouchable attribute that allows you to get in touch with that inner self and allows you to express yourself fully. The good news is that confidence is a trait that can be strengthened over time. Review these 9 Ways To Show More Confidence:

1. Package yourself for success. When you look the part, you'll carry  yourself with more confidence. Dress for the occasion.

2. Correct your posture. Poor posture may make you appear insecure, disinterested, or lazy. Don't slouch in meetings or with clients and colleagues. 

3. Do your best to worry less. Don't stress about what others think about you. Negative self-talk can quickly make you feel as though others are evaluating every error and misstep you make. Focus on the things you do well and give the assignment and credit to others that do things better than you.

4. Focus on the future. If you find yourself caught in the minutia of daily business, remind yourself to think about your dreams on focus on your goals.

5. Embrace positivity. Show gratitude for small acts of kindness and be appreciative of those around you. If you make a habit of being positive and grateful, it will become second nature.

6. Let go of small mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes so don't expect to be perfect or you'll drive yourself and others crazy. If you make a mistake with a client or colleague, take responsibility. Apologize and move forward. 

7. Continue to grow and improve. A small accomplishment can help boost your confidence, even if it's not entirely related to your business. Learn a new skill, read a new book, or take a class. Invest in yourself.

8. Schedule time to play. If you put in a lot of work hours and never take time to rest,  you'll eventually push yourself towards burnout and your attitude will suffer. Make sure to take your lunch break and set aside time to do the things you love in life.

9. Don't be afraid to ask for advice. Whenever you find yourself in an epic struggle against self-doubt or insecurity, call a trusted friend, advisor, or colleague and get his or her best advice. Often an objective opinion will help you look at life differently, overcome your challenges, and boost your confidence.

Making the work on building self-confidence could actually affect the success in your life. It is an important decision!

Personal Application:

-Do you put yourself in positions to pretend to be what you are not? If so, why do you err to over-advocating for yourself instead of being genuine? What steps can you take today, to do your best and worry less?

-When is the last time you've read an industry related or self-help book or taken a class or seminar? What holds you back from learning something new and improving your work skills?

-Does asking for advice make you feel uncomfortable? How so? Will you challenge yourself to learn from others?

  

CPR

by blogadmin 5. June 2015 03:14

We’ve all heard the famous saying, “It is not a question of if we will have conflict, but when.” It’s important to equip yourself with tools and strategies to face conflict when it inevitably arises, whether at home, at work, or elsewhere.

The book Crucial Accountability (Patterson, Grenny, McMillan & Switzler) lays some great ground work for what it looks like to confront issues in a healthy way. One of the many great tools in this book is called CPR. CPR stand for “content,” “pattern,” and “relationship.” The authors suggest that the first time a person fails to fulfill a promise or responsibility, you discuss “Content”. The example given in the book: “You drank too much at the luncheon, became inebriated, started talking too loud, made fun of our clients, and embarrassed the company.” In the “Content” phase, you confront a single incident, discussing what happened here and now and how it affected those involved.

The second time an offense occurs, “Pattern” becomes the focus of the discussion. The next example in the book is: “This is the second time this has occurred. You agreed it wouldn’t happen again, and I’m concerned that I can’t count on you to keep a promise.” In this step, the authors warn not to fall into discussing content. The issue isn’t solely that it happened, but that it’s happened again.

The final step is “Relationship”. Discuss how this continuing issue is effecting your relationship with the other person. Their failed promises have caused you to lose trust, respect, and the ability to count on them to do what they’ve promised.

Practice using the CPR method the next time you are faced with failed expectations. These simple steps will bring you confidence when dealing with repeat issues. 

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