Hey Leaders! Do You Really Want More Power?

by blogadmin 2. November 2017 04:46

Have you met that rising leader or team member that is always right? Or one that drains the energy from the meeting? Research shows that increasing personal power actually begins to interfere with our ability to empathize. Berkely social psychology professor Dacher Keltner found that subjects under the influence of power became more impulsive, less risk-aware, and crucially, less adept at seeing things from other people's point of view. 

In fact, power can actually change how the brain functions according to Canadian neuroscience researcher Sukhvinder Obhi. His study finds power primes our brain to screen out peripheral information. How does it happen?

Slowly and then suddenly. It happens with bad little choices, making isolated decisions and then throwing one's weight around shows up. Demands for special treatment might be the big finish. We've all heard about leaders who've been pulled over and become indignant yelling, "Do you know who I am?!" They reach a point where their power was once helpful to others has turned to power motivated by self-interest.

What can leaders do to keep their power in check? They must invite others in and ask for feedback from a wide variety of people. Don't be afraid to ask employees and colleagues the tough questions. Start with these:

-Are you keeping the small, inconvenient promises that fall outside of the spotlight?

-Do you keep people around you that help you stay down to earth? 

-Are you the same person at home, work and in the spotlight? 

-Do you get defensive when an employee or team member offers you a suggestion? 

-Do you isolate yourself in the decision-making process? 

-Do your decisions reflect your values? 

-Do you admit your mistakes?

-Do you demand special privileges?

 Lastly, a good executive coach or mentor can help you keep or return to the state of empathy and value-driven decisions. 

 

Become Confident: Silence The Self-Doubt

by blogadmin 25. October 2017 03:18

Confidence is a key part of success in business. It is about having trust in what you know and your abilities to handle unexpected events that happen in all facets of your life. It is that unexplainable and untouchable attribute that allows you to get in touch with that inner self and allows you to express yourself fully. The good news is that confidence is a trait that can be strengthened over time. Review these 9 Ways To Show More Confidence:

1. Package yourself for success. When you look the part, you'll carry  yourself with more confidence. Dress for the occasion.

2. Correct your posture. Poor posture may make you appear insecure, disinterested, or lazy. Don't slouch in meetings or with clients and colleagues. 

3. Do your best to worry less. Don't stress about what others think about you. Negative self-talk can quickly make you feel as though others are evaluating every error and misstep you make. Focus on the things you do well and give the assignment and credit to others that do things better than you.

4. Focus on the future. If you find yourself caught in the minutia of daily business, remind yourself to think about your dreams on focus on your goals.

5. Embrace positivity. Show gratitude for small acts of kindness and be appreciative of those around you. If you make a habit of being positive and grateful, it will become second nature.

6. Let go of small mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes so don't expect to be perfect or you'll drive yourself and others crazy. If you make a mistake with a client or colleague, take responsibility. Apologize and move forward. 

7. Continue to grow and improve. A small accomplishment can help boost your confidence, even if it's not entirely related to your business. Learn a new skill, read a new book, or take a class. Invest in yourself.

8. Schedule time to play. If you put in a lot of work hours and never take time to rest,  you'll eventually push yourself towards burnout and your attitude will suffer. Make sure to take your lunch break and set aside time to do the things you love in life.

9. Don't be afraid to ask for advice. Whenever you find yourself in an epic struggle against self-doubt or insecurity, call a trusted friend, advisor, or colleague and get his or her best advice. Often an objective opinion will help you look at life differently, overcome your challenges, and boost your confidence.

Making the work on building self-confidence could actually affect the success in your life. It is an important decision!

Personal Application:

-Do you put yourself in positions to pretend to be what you are not? If so, why do you err to over-advocating for yourself instead of being genuine? What steps can you take today, to do your best and worry less?

-When is the last time you've read an industry related or self-help book or taken a class or seminar? What holds you back from learning something new and improving your work skills?

-Does asking for advice make you feel uncomfortable? How so? Will you challenge yourself to learn from others?

  

Are You As Self-Aware As You Think?

by blogadmin 3. October 2017 03:14

Do you think that you know yourself well enough that you can solve all your problems? Or perhaps you realize you need work on self-awareness. Step one is understanding the definition of self-awareness. 

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DEFINITION:

Self-awareness is the ability to recognize what you are feeling, understand your habitual emotional responses to people or events, and recoginize how your emotions affect behavior and performance.

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Step two is recognizing signs of negative emotions and reactions to people and events. Here are adaptations of Tobak's 7 signs that you might not be as self-aware as you think:

1.  YOU GO ON THE OFFENSE. Your emotional response is anger and aggression. You feel threatened or scared.

2.  YOU GO ON THE DEFENSE. Genuine and objective feedback makes you feel perplexed and agitated. You feel the need to explain and give the back story on everything. You may even go on the offense.

3.  YOU START TO CONTROL. You feel the need to micromanage and pick on the little things. It usually means that you are not dealing with a big thing that's looming or really bugging you.

4.  YOU BECOME PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE. You say, "Sure, no problem," then turn around and do the exact opposite. It means you don't want to confront others or be confronted by them. You might feel vulnerable.

5.  YOUR BEHAVIOR CHANGES. You change your behavior to the point where it's noticeable to others who know or work with you. You feel bothered and are not aware of how it's affecting your mood.

6.  YOU BECOME GRANDIOSE. You make over-the-top overtures to how confident you are in your ideas that may defy objective reasoning. You may feel you are in over your head and are overcompensating.

7.  YOU MAKE EXCUSES. Making an excuse is a way of avoiding or deflecting negative attention. It is a common avoidance technique to resist being held accountable.

Personal Application:

Do you recognize any of these signs in your emotions or reactions? If so, which ones? In what situations or with what people do they occur? Consider keeping a journal of them as step three.

More posts to come on Self-Awareness!

 

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