Fake Stories.

by blogadmin 11. May 2018 04:18

Rhoda Kreuzer | Team Building Edition

Stories are wonderful things. They take us on journeys, allow us to imagine diverse cultures, and entertain us. They can create emotions of joy, thoughtfulness, or sometimes sadness. Stories have been used for centuries to convey truths being passed on from generation to generation.

However, there are stories that we create and believe every day without consciously being aware of them. Stories we create about other team members. For example, when someone fails to say good morning to us, we might create a story in our mind about how they have never liked us and are purposely snubbing us.

Or consider when someone makes a decision we disagree with and we create a story about them that assumes they are being uncaring or manipulative. These stories are powerful and begin to create a context for how we view that person and everything they do.

If we do not ask the person for clarification, we can end up making assumptions that are not true. This produces a lot of conflict within our teams. Instead, try asking yourself questions like, "I wonder why they chose to do it that way?" or " I wonder why they seem so quiet this morning?" Then ask the person for further input. You might be amazed to learn that your "story" or assumptions were "fake" all along!

Challenge:

-Starting this week, improve your personal relationship by asking questions first rather than making assumptions.

-Help your team improve their awareness in conflict situations. Watch this intro video on Everything DiSC Productive Conflict Assessment. Contact me if this tool might be for your organization.

Have a terrific week, 

Rhoda 

 

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